I don’t know when it happens exactly, but at some point, it seems we go from experiencing life from head to toe to experiencing life just from the head. The two get disconnected, and at their worst, start battling each other.

My head often refers to my body as the Basement – something only to cart her 4-pound Majesty around. In turn, my body often thinks of my head as the Attic, and a haunted one at that.

It’s like the World Boxing Championship on some days. (Cue announcer’s voice): “In one corner, weighing four pounds, is The Head!” “In the other corner, weighing 112 pounds, is The Body!” And they go at it.

Here’s what happens:

You wake up, go and look in the mirror, and immediately think, “oh God, not another wrinkle,” or “Geez, I look fat today.” And in the ring, the body goes down in shame.

Or your head, lover of the idea of a human doing vs. being, runs the body ragged with all its “to-dos” and “shoulds” and doesn’t let it rest enough. So, the body fights back and gets sick, maybe a nice little strep throat or mono, and there’s not much the head can do but let the basement heal before it cracks the whip again.

But what if.

What if instead of waking up in the ring and starting the fight, the head and body approached each other and hugged? What if they listened to each other instead of trading insults like an old married couple? What if the head realized the body isn’t a basement at all but a powerhouse of intelligence?

Neurocardiologists at the Institute of HeartMath have found that 60 to 65 percent of heart cells are neuron cells, not muscle cells. This discovery has led to experiments proving the heart works similar to the brain and in some ways, they say, is even superior to the brain. Take that, Attic! And there are even more neurons in your gut, leading neuroscientists to refer to it as the “second brain.”

Science aside, when we can expand our awareness and decision-making to our body – listening to gut feelings, intuition and our heart — we can make much better choices and enjoy life far more. The body appreciates being listened to and will respond lovingly. And the head finds more peace and bliss in settling down and letting go.